9 Traits That A Strong Mother Builts In Her Daughter...!

Mothers and Daughters they always share a special bond - though near or far apart - the words that would describe it- are written on the heart. Mother always plays a great role in building her little princess to the best.

 So here are the 9 traits that a strong mother builts in her daughter:

1. Value of independence. You don’t need a man to save you or anyone to take care of you, you learn by example that you are capable of living a full and happy life without having to share it with someone else. You learn that you can build a home, raise kids, cook, and do the dishes all while having a thriving career. You pretty much learn how to be super woman.

2. Unconditional love. You saw your mom sacrifice her time, health and youth for you and your siblings, yet she never complained or gloated about how much she is suffering or how much she is doing. She always had a smile on her face and was happily giving more and more of herself. She taught you what selfless and unconditional love looks like, and you know you won’t be able to find that love anywhere else.

3. How to love yourself You learn how to walk away from the things that are not meant for you, you learn how to keep going even when the whole world is against you, and you learn how to believe in yourself when everyone is doubting you. You learn that bad grades, heart breaks and failures don’t define you; what defines you is how you bounce back from all the setbacks and how hard you fight for the life you want.

4.  You can be both strong and soft. Strong mothers are usually very sensitive they just hide it better, but you saw your mom silently cry over your pain, or stay up all night taking care of you when you were sick, or the nights she couldn’t sleep because something was troubling you. The way she hugs you when you are down shows unmatched compassion and tenderness and sometimes in a quiet corner you saw her shed a few tears.

5.  Walk like a Tiger Lady. You learn that your opinion will be discounted, that you will be taken lightly when you’re being serious, but you will also learn that you can stand out in a crowd and force everyone to listen to your voice and accept your ideas. You learn that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.

6. Never to look back. You learn to let all the “what ifs” and “could have beens” go. You learn not to look back and wonder why life turned upside down. You just keep looking forward and let the past redeem itself. You learn that everything that happened got you to where you belong even if it is nothing you ever wished for.

7.The importance of patience and faith. You learn that God is looking out for you and your struggles, that everything will be OK in the end. Storms will pass and tomorrow is a new day. You learn to be patient with life, patient with timing, patient with success and patient with problems. You learn that patience is strength.

8. To create your own happiness. You can find happiness in a difficult life. You can still be happy even if  you are carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders. My mom taught me that I can always find something to smile about all I have to do is look closer.

9. How to be a good mother. You’ve been raised by a mom who showed you how to truly take care of a family, who showed you that hard work pays off, who showed you that you can love someone unconditionally. She showed you how to be protective, loving, kind, compassionate, strong and resilient. She was leading by example, and whether you know it or not, you are following in her footsteps one step at a time.
If all the armies in the world were commanded by mothers like you, they would all be trained in decimating the enemy’s hate with adorable smiles and warm hugs.
Thanks for everything mom…! 

Inflammable fact of life in Steve jobs’ Last Words

Inflammable fact of life in Steve jobs’ Last Words –

I reached the pinnacle of success in the business world. In others’ eyes, my life is an epitome of success.

However, aside from work, I have little joy. In the end, wealth is only a fact of life that I am accustomed to.

At this moment, lying on the sick bed and recalling my whole life, I realize that all the recognition and wealth that I took so much pride in, have paled and become meaningless in the face of impending death.

In the darkness, I look at the green lights from the life supporting machines and hear the humming mechanical sounds, I can feel the breath of god of death drawing closer…

Now I know, when we have accumulated sufficient wealth to last our lifetime, we should pursue other matters that are unrelated to wealth…

Should be something that is more important:
Perhaps relationships, perhaps art, perhaps a dream from younger days

Non-stop pursuing of wealth will only turn a person into a twisted being, just like me.

God gave us the senses to let us feel the love in everyone’s heart, not the illusions brought about by wealth.

The wealth I have won in my life I cannot bring with me. What I can bring is only the memories precipitated by love.

That’s the true riches which will follow you, accompany you, giving you strength and light to go on.

Love can travel a thousand miles. Life has no limit. Go where you want to go. Reach the height you want to reach. It is all in your heart and in your hands.

What is the most expensive bed in the world? Sick bed…
You can employ someone to drive the car for you, make money for you but you cannot have someone to bear the sickness for you.

Material things lost can be found. But there is one thing that can never be found when it is lost – Life.

When a person goes into the operating room, he will realize that there is one book that he has yet to finish reading – Book of Healthy Life.

Whichever stage in life we are at right now, with time, we will face the day when the curtain comes down.

Treasure Love for your family, love for your spouse, love for your friends.
Treat yourself well. Cherish others
This is the happening reality of this mysterious world..!
Be smart , Live accordingly…

Don't Get Confuse : True Love Vs Influential Love....!

Being in love is different from true loving and it took me a very long time to learn the difference between being in love with someone and actually loving that person. I learned the hard way, the very, very hard way.
Hearts were broken repeatedly over the years, and although I wish the pain could have been avoided, the experiences taught me more than any book or class ever could.
I grew up on fairy tales and love stories that taught me to believe that being in love and loving are the same thing. That couldn’t be any further from the truth.
Being in love with someone and loving that person are two different things. Understanding the difference and being able to apply the knowledge to your own relationships is key to building a lasting relationship.
Here are a few differences between being in love and loving that I wish I knew a decade sooner :
When you’re in love with someone, you want this person.
Being in love is wanting to own a part of the other person. It’s believing this person is so wonderful that you want him or her to be a part of your life, a part of you. When you fall in love with a person, you feel an intense urge to consume that person in any way you can.

Being in love is believing you need someone in order to be happy.
When you love someone, you need this person.

You don’t just want — or rather, don’t only want — you need him or her. You need this person to live a happy and healthy life because your happiness literally depends on it.
You need him or her to be a part of your life in some way or another, not because you want to own a piece of this person, but because you want to give him or her a piece of yourself; loving someone is deeming him or her worthy of owning a part of you.
It isn’t about ownership; it’s about wanting only the best for that individual — something that often means letting that love go.

When you’re in love with someone, your emotions are always on high.
Your brain is producing the most amazing chemical cocktail, making you feel as if you were floating atop of a cloud. You get high just by being in love with a person — and it’s a sort of high you never want to let go of.
No one wants to come down from such a high. This is where the problem lies: You inevitably do come down.

When you love someone, your emotions settle and then fluctuate.
Loving someone isn’t as much about the emotions as it is about the thoughts.
Thinking about someone, wishing the best for that person, doing the best to make him or her happy and, well, caring for that person just as much as — if not more than — yourself, that’s what love is. The emotions that come with it are just the perks.
Once you have passed the stage of simply being in love with someone to actually loving him or her, you have to learn to let go of the constant high and to ride the less frequent waves as they come. They always come. They just aren’t the “in love” emotional state that only falling in love allows for.
When you’re in love with someone, you’re aiming to reach some goal.
That’s what makes falling in love so exciting — the constant yearning for more. You want to spend more time with this person, get to know him or her better, be with this person as much as possible. You always want to have more, and want to build a greater, more serious relationship.

When you love someone, you aren’t rushing to reach the finish line. The goal that being in love calls for no longer exists — but only because it’s already been reached. This often scares people because they begin to feel a need to continue making progress.
Unfortunately, everything in the universe is finite. You can’t make progress and continue building something greater forever. The only thing you can eventually do is keep reinforcing what you already have.
Being in love is not only understanding that what you have is all you need, but wanting to strengthen that bond indefinitely.

When you’re in love with someone, you think you care more about that person more than you actually do.
Falling in love is much, much easier than loving. When you’re in love, the chemicals in your brain and body make you feel as if the person is the greatest person in the world.
You believe this person to be the most amazing specimen you have ever encountered. Sadly, this way of thinking usually wears off as soon as the feel-good chemicals wear off. Then you’re left lost and confused.

When you love someone, you care about that person more than you think.
Being in love is easily recognizable, as it makes you feel a constant yearning, a constant need. Loving, on the other hand, doesn’t give you such constant reminders.
However, life always manages to give us those reminders. Life will often keep people away from us, harm those in our lives and sometimes even take them from us entirely.
When you truly love someone, such moments of separation and loss overwhelm you with emotion. People often forget how much they love a person — or fail to realize how much they love them — until life forces them to remember.

When you’re in love with someone, you can fall out of love with that someone.
What goes up must come down. In the case of falling in love, what comes down often crawls back up. If you can fall in love with a person then you know you can just as easily fall out of love with him or her.
Being in love — and romantic love altogether — is mostly a result of our minds’ creation. We make, or allow, ourselves to fall in love by romanticizing the individual as well as the relationship. When you’re in love, reality doesn’t always line up with your version of it.
When you love someone, you never really stop loving that someone.
Loving a person is something that defines you — it defines the person you are. Those we love, those we care about most, those who mean the most to us, and who have affected us most in our lives, are those who never really leave us.
They may remove themselves, or be removed, from our lives, but they never leave our minds. Their memory, the thought of them, makes us feel strong emotion. Their presence in our lives has had such an incredible influence on us that, because of them, we are different people.
When you love someone, you can’t stop loving that person because it would require you to stop loving a part of you yourself.
Now choice is yours!!! #Love is yours!!
Good Luck…!

  

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Spice up your life with these 21 ingredients ...!

Is your life surrounded by boredom? Wanna make it exciting, enjoyable ? Offcourse, Who not ! and Trust me , You don’t have to do or be something dramatic to have a more interesting and exciting life. Small and simple changes, shifts in thinking, and self-improvement stretches can shake up your world enough to make it more fun, fascinating and adventurous.

 Here are 21 ingredients needed for a recipe named “ADVENTUROUS LIFE” :

1. Shake Up Your Morning Routine : Instead of following the same wake-up routine every day, do it differently on occasion. Get up ten minutes early, Go to Gym or can prefer Zumba workouts, have breakfast outside. Make love before work. Just starting your day differently will give you a thrill.
2.  Get A Makeover : Get a new haircut, have your make-up done by a pro, buy a new outfit, or try a new style. Keep on doing experiments on your looks.
3. Talk To Strangers : How many times have you been in a situation, maybe in the waiting room at the doctor’s office or at the DMV, where you think about starting up a conversation but decide to whip out your phone instead? Sure, it’s easier to bury your head in your smartphone. Talking to strangers can be scary, perhaps because we’re so fiercely warned against it as children. But 9 times out of 10, it’s so worth it to engage! Maybe the person you chat with will become a new friend. Maybe they’ll be a raving lunatic Or maybe they work in the same industry as you and you’ve just gained a valuable work contact without having to trudge through another networking cocktail party.
4. Learn Something New : Study a new language, a new skill, a hobby. You will open doors to meeting new people who share your interests and abilities.
5. Be The Host : Take the initiative to entertain, and invite friends or family over for dinner or something different — like a wine tasting or game night.
6. Go Cheer : Attend a competitive, fast-paced sporting event like tennis, basketball, or racing where the energy and excitement of the sport is contagious.
7. Find Exciting People : Look around at people you know whose lives seem interesting and exciting. Take the initiative to get to know them so that you can be included in some of their excitement.
8. Make Room : It’s hard to add excitement to your life if your life is overflowing with mindless tasks and chores. Can you simplify, delegate, or eliminate any of these boring and mindless tasks to make room for excitement? Sometimes we fill our lives with these things in order to avoid stretching ourselves toward happiness. Is that you?
9. Change The Theme : Rearrange or redecorate your room or make some changes at workplace or office, switching things up gives a sort of new and different feel .
10. Plan A Surprise Rendezvous: Plan a surprise for your special someone or your family members. Some random plans can give you great memories to cherish and enjoyable moments.
11. Plan An Adventurous Trip : Even if you can’t afford to take a trip now, just researching, planning, and dreaming can give you a boost and build excitement for the time when you can afford to go. Include saving money as part of your planning.
12. Try Crazy Activites : Crazy activities definitely can make you cheerful like take a skinny dip in bath tub, awkward acts , go kiddish, try unusual recipe etc .
13. Give Time For Your Hobbies : Do all those activities whichever gives you an exuberant feel. Enjoy Rock concerts, clubs , you may adopt a pet and many more things according to your interest.
14. Participate In Competitions : Participate in a big competition or contest especially that is nationwide this can help your life with a great and enjoyable competitive zeal .
15. Combo Of Disciplined & Unplanned Schedules : Getting through the disciplined schedule all the time can give you a boring stare. Live uncertain, unplanned schedules with a scope of adventurous moments.
16. Take A Observant Walk : Be curious about what happens around you. Try to deal unusual things around you.
17. Change Career : If you are feeling stifled by your job , get a new. Make sure that all background processes should have a adventurous splashes.
18. Don’t Pause : Don’t pause yourself from trying out something, to initiate, to take action. Stop playing safe or looking for someone to lead you.
19. Assume moving to a new place : Sometimes a change in scenery is just what you need. Consider yourself moving to a new city or country and introduce yourself to unexplored and happening situations.
20. Try A Random Act Of Kindness : Do something unexpectedly nice for a friend or a complete stranger. Pay for someone’s coffee. Send balloons. Leave a love note.
21. Move Towards One Big Thing : Is there one big action you’ve been holding back on that could turn your life from boring to amazing? Maybe it’s a job change, a move, a proposal, a change of scenery, a new relationship in your life. Whatever it is, take the first step. Action creates momentum, and momentum builds excitement.

Enjoy Your today to the fullest because you never know what in their for you tomorrow
“One way to get the most out of life is to look upon it as an adventure.” — William Feather

Secrets Revealed By Happiest man in the world

Buddhist monk Matthieu Ricard has been hailed by scientists as absurdly upbeat.
"If you can learn how to ride a bike you can learn how to be happy," says 67-year-old Buddhist monk and Happiest Man In The World, Matthieu Ricard.


Mattieu Ricard

 

As a child, poet Andre Breton, film-maker Louis Buñuel and composer Igor Stravinsky were regular guests to Ricard's philosopher parents' Parisian home. However, observing that the genius of his parents' friends didn't seem to make them any happier he set off for the Himalayas (abandoning his work as a molecular biologist at the Pasteur Institute) and transformed his life via meditation.

 

At the last count he'd clocked up more than 10,000 hours. Highly complex MRI scans by cognitive scientists at the Laboratory for Affective Neuroscience in Wisconsin have shown extraordinarily high levels of upbeat activity (-0.45 on a range where -0.3 is described as "beatific") and almost invisible levels of negative emotions. "I don't see everything as rosy," he says, "but the ups and downs of life don't unsettle me in the usual way."

 

Here are his life lessons :

 

Anyone can be the happiest person in the world if they look for happiness in the right place. The problem is that we tend not to. 

 

Happiness is not the pursuit of an endless succession of experiences. That's a recipe for exhaustion more than happiness. Happiness is a way of being. The challenge is to let that way of being overtake all other emotional states. 

 

Unlike pleasure, which exhausts itself as you experience it, happiness is a skill and cultivated. We all have the potential for it. You have to examine what contributes to a flourishing in your life. In Buddhism we say the root cause of unhappiness is ignorance. 

 

Being happy is about raising your "baseline". It's not about seeking sudden fireworks or euphoric experiences. The first step to take is to realise that you want to improve - that the world is not a mail order catalogue for our fantasies and desires and that we have a relatively limited control over those transient, illusory conditions. 

 

To be truly happy we have to get rid of mental toxins such as hatred, obsession, arrogance, envy, greed and pride. The whole point of mind training or meditation is to get rid of those and to cultivate positive qualities such as altruism. 

 

You might argue that a bad temper or a bit of negativity can define a person's character so it's not necessarily bad. That's as maybe - we all have a different mix of light and shadows - but should we just give in to that view and think that it's optimal? You don't say, "it's human nature to get ill and die so why go to see a doctor" do you?

 

The way the mind interprets the world is a crucial element in determining the quality of every instant that goes by yet we pay so little attention to our inner condition. We must learn to recognise that there are mental states or emotions that are conducive to flourishing and some that are destructive. I call it antidote training.

 

Usually when we have a flash of anger there follows a sort of refractory period where we can't even begin to acknowledge the positive aspects of the person with whom we're angry. They are just 100 per cent despicable and our whole mental landscape is full of that. A direct antidote approach is to treat it like heat and cold. This means that the more you bring benevolent or altruistic thoughts at that instant to the mind, the less space there is for the opposite. This is antidote training.

 

By keeping aware of the anger it cannot sustain itself, it stops being fuelled and slowly dies out. If you become skilled in that, then with awareness you can simply let those afflictive emotions dissolve without keeping them in like a time bomb, or exploding them each time. It's about realising that you not anger any more than you are the flu. 

 

Of course I get irritated. But I usually start laughing quite quickly at the irritation, because it's so silly. 

 

Everyone would be helped by meditating for half-an-hour a day. Meditation is a very vague term and there's a lot of cliché - like emptying your mind and relaxing and all that stuff. But it's really a means to cultivate or be familiar with a better understanding of the way the mind works. Studies have shown that meditation combined with cognitive therapy can help people who suffer from severe depression and reduce the risk of relapse by up to 40 per cent. 

 

To be completely free you can't at the same time have a responsible concern for people who depend on you. How can I be happy when I've been celibate for 30 years? If I have a family I will cause a lot of suffering so it's not feasible. It doesn't mean that you don't have wonderful friendships and relationships with half of humanity. One aspect may not be there but many others are. 

 

Life is not all about sitting on my balcony and looking at the Himalayas. You may say it's easy for me, that I live up a mountain and don't get set upon by hoodies on the way home every night. But it's not easy. I took 70 flights from 15 July to 6 November. I've not had one day off.

You Bargain with Poors even though you happily pay more money at malls & restaurant. WHY ?

Bargaining is a part and parcel of Indian life and culture. Right from your subjiwalas to that car salesman, Indians bargain with anybody and everybody. It's almost a feeling of pride when you bargain and get something for cheaper, even if it's just Rs 05 less. However, there are people you should never bargain , Reason is "They do business not to build shopping malls but to LIVE AND EAT " . So let us take a look and try to know why shouldn't we bargain with them..

1. Vegetable Vendors : Bargaining with the local subziwalla or the vegetable vendor is something Indians do not even do consciously. They have been doing it forever and it is a habit now. But have you ever thought of the pains your vegetable vendor goes through? He probably wakes up at 3 in the morning to reach the area where the vegetables get delivered by trucks early in the morning. He then purchases these vegetables and sets up his stall and stands in the heat/rain/cold all day screaming out to passersby to buy the vegetables. His day begins early and ends late. And if no one buys his wares, they have to be thrown as vegetables and fruits have a short shelf life. When you buy vegetables and fruits from supermarkets, you do not even think about bargaining. Why then ask the poor vendor to reduce his price? If you want vegetables for cheaper, go to a wholesale market. Too far and tiring? Well, so is the vendor's job.
2. Roadside vendors : The blind and often physically challenged men who sell small items and kitsch by the roadside have no other means of income apart from being salesmen. There are times when they even get cheated by customers who offer them incorrect amount notes and then disappear and the poor men are left struggling. It is extremely difficult to be handicapped and illiterate in India, and manage to earn a decent income. The next is extremely difficult to be handicapped and illiterate in India, and manage to earn a decent income. The next time you think of cheating these poor men/women, think twice and pay them what they ask for. It will brighten their day and make you feel good.
3. Painters : The men who come to paint your house live a tough life. They live with the smell of paint and varnish day in and day out. They make your house beautiful. And yet their efforts are never valued. They never even get to live in the sort of houses they paint. Appreciate their efforts and applaud them. Give them what they rightly deserve, without skimping.
4. Cobblers : Being a cobbler in India is perhaps one of the most underrated professions. Just like with tailors, a lot of Indians buy branded and high-end footwear and then ask roadside cobblers to mend or stitch them to make them stronger. Indian cobblers, apart from mending shoes, also design the best custom sandals and shoes at the cheapest of rates. If you do not think twice about paying Rs 2500-Rs 3000 for a pair of branded shoes, why does it pinch you to pay even Rs 25 to mend them? Try getting a custom shoe made by a roadside cobbler and the fit and longevity of it will amaze you. The next time, do not haggle with the poor man. Give him what he deserves.

Alteration tailors : Alteration tailors or tailors who stitch custom clothes for you are unique to India and certain other developing countries. If you ever go abroad and try getting a dress "custom-made" you will end up paying double the cost of a branded dress. Tailors, especially alteration tailors, in India hardly earn a four-figure salary in a month and have to live life hand to mouth. When you buy branded clothes from shops worth hundreds and perhaps even thousands, you do not bat an eye-lid. But when it comes to shelling out Rs 50-100 for getting those clothes re-sized and perfect, you suddenly feel the pinch and bargain like there's no tomorrow. Give the poor man a chance to survive and don't bargain for such petty amounts.

Coolies : One of the most difficult professions in the country, the coolie takes everyone's luggage and unburdens them. Literally. Being a coolie is a tough task. The man has to carry extremely heavy luggage and it takes a toll on his health. Add this to the fact that he generally jumps into moving trains to try and get customers. His job involves loads of risks. With modern bags with wheels and trolleys, their clientele is slowly dwindling. Theirs is a hard life with very little income on most days. Don't begrudge them the extra 10 or 20 Rs. They deserve every rupee and more.

Plumbers and electricians : Most societies and apartment complexes in India have their own team of plumbers and electricians and the rates charged are as per rate cards. However, if you call an electrician and plumber on your own, you somehow end up bargaining for the tiniest amounts. If you are so miserly, instead of making the electrician/plumber run around to purchase the faulty parts, buy the parts yourself and try fixing the device. You'll realise the pain and effort that goes into their task. And if you cannot do it, shut up and pay the man what he deserves.

Many other includes the FESTIVE VENDORS, RICKSHAW PULLERS, DOLLI WALLAS, LABOURS etc..
Have you ever thought Why we bargain with street vendors & rickshaw pullers even though we happily pay 150 to 500 percent more money at malls & restaurant?
THINK ABOUT IT .....!